When asked to participate in a wedding as an attendant, we often become a bit lightheaded about the honor, feeling very special that someone would care for us so much that they would want us to share this moment.  And yes, it is an honor.  But, it is also expensive and time consuming.  So, consider all aspects and responsibilities of the position before agreeing.

Expenses Obligatory

  •  Attire
  • Alterations
  • Shoes
  • Travel
  • Group wedding and shower gift

Expenses Negotiable

  • Hair Professionally Styled
  • Makeup Professionally Applied
  • Professional Manicure and Pedicure
  • Jewelry

Attendance Obligatory

  • Bridal Shower
  • Bachelorette Party
  • Bridesmaids’ Lunch
  • Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner
  • Wedding and Reception


  • Attend all appointments
  • Stay in contact with wedding party
  • Day of the wedding
  • Assist the bride
  • Follow directions
  • Stand in the receiving line
  • Mingle with guests
  • Dance with groomsmen and guests
  • Try to catch the bouquet

If possible

  • Assist with the invitations and place cards
  • Assist with decorations or favors
  • Run wedding related errands

What other responsibilities have you encountered as a bridesmaid? Let us know by leaving a comment below!

Happy planning!